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Finding Adoptive Parents

"I didn't know how to find an adoptive family for my baby,"

 Cassie looked up from where she had been watching a video on her phone where a small child was dancing cheerfully amongst warm waves.

“The question haunted me,” Cassie continued. “Where can I find an adoptive family for my baby? Look what I found.” Cassie raised her phone as the video replayed.

The young birth mother had found a family who was interested in having an open adoption with her. They regularly traded videos, pictures, and messages.

Other women who feel the need to place their child for adoption might not want an open adoption but are more interested in less connection. They, too, will need to find a like-minded adoptive family for their baby.

The hunt for the perfect adoptive family for your baby can be overwhelming.

At Heart to Heart Adoptions, we prioritize making sure you are comfortable looking for the family and

You might know what you want, but maybe you are unsure.  But we’ll spend time helping you find what you are looking for.

First, you’ll fill out a matching form. As you look for an adoptive family for your baby, this form will help. Included are questions about your preferences and the kind of family you envision for your child. This might cover aspects like religious beliefs, geographical location, educational opportunities, and exposure to certain activities or lifestyles.

Second, you’ll review profiles of families who are looking to grow their families through adoption. We look for families that align with your preferences and values. These profiles will give you an overview of each family, their lifestyle, and what they can offer your child.

We will then find two or three, or maybe more, families that match your criteria. You’ll receive detailed profiles of these families to review. Once you find one you like, you’ll have the opportunity to speak with them on FaceTime, a phone call, or something similar. You can ask them the hard questions, hear their voices, and get a sense of who they are. This will help you feel confident in your decision and ensure that you are placing your child in a loving, supportive environment.

If you interview a potential adoptive family and, as we've had happen before, you aren't comfortable with that family, we will find another, and another, and another until you find the right fit.

As a birth mother, here are some things that might be important to you:

  • Religious Beliefs: Does the family share your religious values, or are they open to respecting and incorporating your beliefs into your child’s life?
  • Geographical Location: Where does the family live? Do you prefer a certain climate, city, rural area, or proximity to extended family?
  • Educational Opportunities: What kind of education will your child receive? Are there good schools in the area? Do the adoptive parents value education?
  • Lifestyle: What activities and hobbies do the family enjoy? Do they value sports, arts, travel, or other specific interests?

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  • Cultural Exposure: Will your child be exposed to diverse cultures and experiences? How does the family plan to integrate cultural awareness and sensitivity?
  • Parenting Style: What is the family’s approach to parenting? Do they have similar values regarding discipline, nurturing, and child development?
  • Family Dynamics: What is the family’s structure? Are there other children? What is the extended family’s involvement like?
  • Support Systems: Does the family have a strong support network? Are there nearby relatives, friends, or community resources?
  • Career and Financial Stability: What do the adoptive parents do for a living? Is their financial situation stable enough to provide for a child’s needs?
  • Health and Wellness: Are the adoptive parents physically and mentally healthy? Do they prioritize a healthy lifestyle?

We understand that placing your child for adoption is a deeply personal and emotional decision. Our goal is to support you every step of the way, ensuring you feel confident and at peace with your choice. By considering your preferences and values, we’ll help you find a loving, supportive family that meets your expectations. Remember, if at any point you feel uncertain about a family, we will continue to find another match until you are completely comfortable.


As you ask yourself, “How do I find an adoptive family for my baby?” Remember, we’re here to guide you through the entire process, making it as smooth and reassuring as possible. By helping you with detailed profiles and allowing you to interview potential families, we ensure that you have all the information you need to make the best decision for your child.


Together, we can find the perfect family for your child, reassuring you that they will be loved, cherished, and well-cared for.