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A List of When NOT to Adopt

We believe in adoption. Every month we see beautiful families created. But there are times when we would discourage

Six Bad Motivations for Adoption

  1. Rescuing a child.

Children need a parent who wants them, not a parent who wants to be a savior. If you think you’re a savior, that attitude will permeate the relationship and no one, especially a teen, wants to feel eternally grateful. Children do not want to feel they “owe” you something for adopting them. No child wants to be a charity.

  1. You’ve finally convinced your partner.

No. No. and No. Both of you should be ready to add to your family.

Adoption is different; it is not second-best. Until you truly believe that, don’t adopt.

  1. You think this will save your relationship.

Children actually put more strain on a relationship. Expecting a child to fix a relationship is unfair to the child and, quite frankly, unrealistic.

  1. Peer Pressure.

Those people pressuring you aren’t going to be feeding the baby at 2 in the morning. Those people pressuring you aren’t going to be trying to remember to send a sack lunch for the third-grade field trip. Those people pressuring you aren’t contributing to the insurance fund when the 17-year-old hits a parked car.

  1. You want an heir.

Wanting someone to care for your estate or care for you as you age is not a reason to bring a child into your home.

Look inside and make sure your decision to adopt comes from a good place.